To those feminists who are responding to womenagainstfeminism with:
"Omg, you clearly just don’t know what feminism is!"
"If you believe in equality then you’re a feminist."
"Feminism is a collection of movements and ideologies aimed at defining,…
See, this is what I’m talking about. There are actually people who are against feminism because they honestly believe feminism could not possibly help men in any way because it was a movement created for women during a time when women had basically no rights.
I would like to point out that there are also people who honestly believe it’s not physically possible for a person to be both a feminist and an egalitarian.
Goddamn there are some ignorant, naive people in the world.
Oh, I believe that feminism could help men. I simply don’t believe that it does.
Of course it is possible to be a feminist and an egalitarian. In fact I know several people who identify as both. And all of those people face a constant fight within feminism to have their point of view listened to. They have been told they are ‘not real feminists’ because they value mens issues as highly as womens issues. They have been told they have ‘internalised misogyny’ because they don’t accept the idea that men are the enemy.
Feminism is a movement with a focus on women. Unfortunately many proponents of feminism are anti-men, and many of the changes feminism has brought about, though they might be seen to be helping women, have had the effect of making things worse for men.
Feminism must be judged on what it has done - not what it might have done, or could do in the future.
But back to the point of OPs post - dismissing anti-feminist ideas with ‘you don’t know what feminism really is’ or ‘if you believe in equality then you are a feminist’…
I know exactly what feminism is, I know exactly what it has achieved and I know exactly what it is doing right now. That I don’t agree with it doesn’t make me ignorant of it - in fact I have formed my opinions through years of research and observation. The dismissive attitudes of many feminists only helps to push me away further.
And feminism does not have the monopoly on gender equality. I don’t believe that focusing on one gender is the correct way forward. And since that is what feminism does, then that is (part of) the reason I reject it. It is not the place of any feminism to force a label on to me that I do not wish to take.
If that makes me ignorant and naive, then fine. I shall continue to be so.